Practical Skills For Your Marriage

Parenting:

  • Mothering and Fathering: How to harmonize these complementary and distinct roles.
  • Discipline: Developing your family's system.
  • Needs: Prioritizing the needs of each member of the family.
  • Sleep: The role of sleep in a Christian home.

Security/safety/conversion:

  • Security: How we constantly look to each other to feel secure.
  • Safety: How to become the safe friend whom my spouse desires & needs.
  • Conversion: How to facilitate conversion, change, and growth in myself and my spouse.

Intimacy:

  • Satisfaction: Understanding your spouse's needs and wants.
  • Gratitude: Learning to be happy with what you have before seeking growth.
  • Receptivity: Sharing body and soul vulnerably, honestly, and completely.
  • Unity: Strategies for moving towards one another when your visions do not match.

Communication:

  • Forgiveness: As Christians we know it's necessary. How exactly to go about forgiving well.
  • Family Culture: How to establish a joyful family culture and a plan for growth.
  • Help: Asking for help and allowing my spouse to help.
  • Trying again: How to bring up a topic I’m convinced will go poorly (because it always has).
  • Anger: How to effectively diffuse anger and conflict and redirect the passion towards unity.

Sharing hopes, dreams, disappointments, and fears:

  • Needs & desires: How to effectively communicate these without accidentally being threatening.
  • Hopes & fears: How to make it easy for my spouse to understand what I'm trying to share.
  • Mistakes: Avoiding blame, sharing the disappointment, avoiding resentment, & trying again.

Finances:

  • Roles: How to determine what roles you'll each play (who pays the bills, who earns income).
  • Debt & Budgeting: Giving every dollar a job.
  • Planning: Coming together and finding a new way (saving/spending/organizing) which you both prefer.

Sharing your faith:

  • Prayer: There are many ways to pray. How to find one that might work for you to share.
  • Leadership: St. Ignatious on discernment of spirits.
  • Intercession: Effectively calling down God's blessing on your wife or husband.
  • Virtue: Choosing to become attractive when we want our spouse to be attracted.

Your own topic

  • Couples often have a specific area which they desire growth in.